Dealing With Frustration
It is easy to become frustrated, especially when you perceive the other party in the conversation to lack empathy for your position. Seldom have I ever felt that I was completely wrong in an argument, but then again, that is only one side of the argument. What really becomes a frustrating situation is when the other party refuses to listen to your point of view, completely insinuating that your opinion is wrong or that your feelings do not matter because your position is wrong no matter what.
Webster provides an adequate albeit simple definition of the emotion: a deep chronic sense or state of insecurity and dissatisfaction arising from unresolved problems or unfulfilled needs. When you are frustrated, it is important to distinguish between what is and what is not within your power to change. Frustration often arises out of trying to change an uncontrollable circumstance.
Some of the common warning signs of frustration include:• shortness of breath• knot in the throat • stomach cramps• chest pains• headache• compulsive eating• excessive alcohol consumption• increased smoking• lack of patience• desire to strike out
Frustration usually results in a compromise for the other person. Don't be afraid to say "Yes" if someone offers to help. Say "Yes" when the person offers to help rather than saying "maybe" and waiting until you are in a spot. Have a list ready of things or tasks you need help with. The frustration will lessen considerably.
On the flip side, learn how to say "No" to the demands of others when you are overwhelmed or need a break. It is your right to say "No" to extra demands without feeling guilty.
Frustration as an emotion can be just that, frustrating. Deal with the issue up front and not in the background. It will be easier in the near and long term when it impacts your relationship with others.