Dealing With Our Grief
The emotion of grief is one that tears at our inner core. We grieve for ourselves because the loss we have experienced takes away a person from our immediate access. Some deal with grief better than others. No matter how it is perceived, grief is intensely personal.
Most of us associate grief with death. Grief can be exacerbated by the abrupt intervention of tragedy and mitigated by the awareness of a foregone conclusion. In other words, we deal with grief better when we know what is coming, i.e. a prolonged illness where we can plan and accept an inevitable outcome.
Grief touches everyone. Those that experience death daily, such as doctors, nurses, and soldiers, may harden to the event but the grief is no less difficult. None of us are spared from personal loss.
I recently lost a close friend and colleague who happened to be my publisher. She was a wonderful person who had a crusty personality and a straight-forward approach to life. I grieved when I heard of her death and will miss her dearly.
Growing up, my father dealt with grief regularly as a pastor and minister. He would visit the sick, prepare the families for the outcome and bury their loved ones. He always said there is no easy passing, only easy acceptance that there is something else on the other side.
Finding someone to speak with about your grief is important. It provides the foundation for healing and acceptance, a basis for us to continue. Celebrate the life of those lost and don't take for granted those that are still left. Our grief is personal and is eased when we remember the good things our loss has given to us and others.